Successful suicide and attempted suicide in his family, abuse, and alcoholism didn’t matter because nobody would listen. They would not listen to me or my children. His dad was a partner in a law firm, and unfortunately money wins. Money buys the best lawyer, which in turn buys the best defense.

As I watch my children being further abused I feel helpless. The things he says to them, the things he does, the mind games, not letting them take transportable items back and forth, violating right to first refusal, and many other orders…. still nothing. A son that tested gifted yearly and was ranked 99th percentile in the nation, that hasnt passed the test for the gifted program since the beginning if our shared parenting every other week agreement.

I sit, I worry, and I wait. I encourage them to love him, I let them go there when they want despite the fact that he doesnt let them visit when its his week. Ive read numerous books on how to cope but I sit here today wondering how in the world it ended up like this. Its awful!

I think the diagnoses of such should be more closely monitored. I find it necessary for our courts to monitor cases such as mine because that WOULD be in the best interest of the children. If I hired a lawyer and filed motions/complaints it would only start another war. I didnt want a war to begin with. All I wanted was a peaceful life for my children and I.

If child custody cases went under an automatic review like any other system in our government, people would be on their best behavior at all times…… and THAT is in the child’s best interest.

So as much as this condition of parental alienation exists, it is sometimes misleading. Often the person “found guilty” by a court, judge, etc is actually the victim in the situation.

The book, A Family’s Heartbreak: A Parent’s Introduction to Parental Alienation has been published and is now available.

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Sincerely,

mike “jeff” jeffries
Author, A Family’s Heartbreak: A Parent’s Introduction to Parental Alienation

I agree with alienated mom, children are empowered by the courts, but with PA/PAS, their true voices are not being, only the voice of the alienating parent through them.

Not only should all attorneys and judges be well educated in this area, they need to have the backing of laws to put a stop to this. Children are brainwashed by the alienating parent and can make the statement that they do not want contact with the other parent. Children are empowered by the courts because they have a “say” without the proper investigation.

Until things change, children will loose the one parent that has their best interests at heart and that parent will loose their child.

It is a sad world that we live in.

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Education of attorneys and judges has long been one of my “litanies”. Too often before the pattern of behavior is properly brought before the Court, the situation has become too severe for any meaningful remedy to be effective except through intense long-term therapy, or the alienating parent has absconded with the child. In these situations too often attorneys will just seek psychological evaluations on the parents, when in reality what is needed is evaluation and treatment of the child by a child psychologist or psychiatrist knowledgeable about parental alienation and its aftermath. The ensuing report would be far more valuable to the court than psych evals which usually just summarize that “both parents love the child and are adequate parents”. Just saying “Your Honor, we believe there is parental alienation occuring” has little impact if not well supported by documentation presented either by an expert who has evaluated the case at hand or who has provided the attorney with the appropriate “tools” to argue the case properly.