PUBLISHERS NOTE: Here is a classic from Connecticut Psychotherapist Donna Ferber, first published on the Ohio Family Law Blog on July 10, 2010. Her advice about surviving your final divorce court date is still right on target! Also, check her books and her website out at www.DonnaFerber.com
Survival Tips For Preparing For Your Day In Divorce Court
Just as each marriage is unique, so is each divorce. Your reaction to the final legal decree will vary from that of others going through this process. Your feelings will be based on your own special circumstances and will depend upon a number of factors:
- How reconciled you are to the divorce.
- How much time has passed between the filing of the original papers and the final day.
- How much acrimony still exists with your spouse.
- How much rebuilding of your own life you have already done.
Divorce Day can bring about a myriad of feelings, ranging from extreme sadness to exuberant joy to calm indifference. By knowing yourself and your own feelings about your situation, you can predict, to some degree, how you will feel.
Here are some tips for preparing for your day in divorce court:
- Make a trial run