A man in his late 30s stopped by my office unexpectedly and asked me the most terrifying question you can ask a child psychologist, “Do you remember me?” I looked at his face and quickly tried to imagine what he looked like as a child. He finally gave me his name, and I remembered him immediately.
Why are Kids so Afraid of Being Real with their Parents? Adolescents typically discuss their fears about fitting in and figuring out relationships. Self-doubts overwhelm them, even if they appear well-adjusted and confident. Their outer persona rarely matches their inner life.
It seems as though many discussions with our kids or friends morph into mindless debates rather than genuine conversations. The goal is to win an argument rather than to understand another’s viewpoint. This has been evident within the political arena.